Saturday, 11 October 2014

DIFFICULTY OF BEING GOOD


KLPD

KLPD is a bit vulgar for this blogpost but, frankly speaking, didn't find any better word to be used from the queen's lexicon. So yesterday I had upon me a zabardast metaphorical KLPD incident when a girl, who I admire for her brave-talk & act  and independent nature, bro-zoned me. Now that came as a big shock for me. Though I had no extreme feelings for her, I'd just started thinking on how this girl is like-minded and has some of the qualities that I'd like to see in the woman of my life. I never flirted with her(not that I flirt usually). Its only been in the last  3-4 days that I've been meeting her for most of the day during lunch, tea, snacks and for an evening walk (Yes!sometimes! I like to walk alone) in the office. It was total multiple co-incidents that even though we're a bunch of friends who do the aforementioned things together, in the last 3-4 days I ate and walked with the girl mentioned. But never in these encounters I felt that the girl had any of the extreme feelings for me, but I always thought "I can make a move only when I get serious about feelings for her". In the meanwhile, the bomb was dropped.

Yesterday I along with my friends(inc this girl) planned for a dinner at a famous Thali restaurant in SoBo. As usual I was cool with her, but I don't know why, I starting gazing at her and mind you girls are smart enough to catch you even if their eyes are looking somewhere else. Even though she didn't acknowledge anything like that, but I guess she was warmly aware of the staring part. I did that maybe because while traveling to the place from my office, I found her looking into my eyes during conversations(whatever that means!). As expected for better or for worse I was mostly trying to talk to her. Once we had dinner by 10.30, since she says in the outskirts of Bombay, it was difficult for her to reach her place also since she missed her train that would've been able to drop her to the connecting last train on time. So I along with my friend were worried about her. We dropped down on 2 options. First was to make her call her relatives who reside in western suburbs and give them a surprise visit at late night Or second was that she may go along with my friend to stay at his place(I didn't offer, since my place was small & also my mother isn't at home.) Consensus was evolved to call her relatives and inform them about her visit. While going to the station she was searching for an ATM for money since it was getting too late I gave her a couple of 100s I'd with me. And Deja Vu! I remembered doing same when we along with friends once went out to a bowling session. After a good conversation with her and another friend in train I got down at Currey Rd Station and she was to get down at Sion and then travel  to her relative's place by road. Since I was worried about her, I whatsapp-ed her. She did reply saying that she'll be reaching in 10 mins. I dont usually whatsapp her. When she reached, she whatsapp-ed me saying she reached safely. And then she wrote, "I learned today that you sincerely care" "You are like my real brother". F*CK!! Got bro-zoned. HELL it was! 

DIFFICULTY OF BEING GOOD

That, the last sentence from the last paragraph, is what I think is called difficulty of being good'. I was nice and natural 'me' with her, never was I rude on her and she didn't even think twice before bro-zoning me notwithstanding the help I extended to her on various instances. Now I understand why they say that 'Good men will die single', not that I'm a braggart, one can say I never intentionally harm a person's feelings and this is what was in store for me. I intend to write a follow-up blog-post contemplating in a more holistic way. 


Saturday, 16 March 2013

What should I write on

         Long time! Sigh!
         Indeed it's been a very long time since I thought I'll be writing a post on something very intriguing (at-least for me) but a good read for all of you readers. So after much of a brainstorming on weekends ( I being a trainee software coolie gets time only on weekends)  I narrowed down to few important points-to write upon something which has always haunted me. The growing disparity between the rich and the poor, the tyranny of being from the first generation educated strata of a lower middle class, the high aspirations of middle class community in growing India, totally unorganized education sector system in India (profit making education sector in alive and kicking) which gives unequal opportunities to many  etc etc. So I'll start writing on one of the points given above today itself and will post it very soon. Till then enjoy the weekend.

Saturday, 1 December 2012

Book Review: Everybody loves a good drought


           Just finished reading 'Everybody loves a good drought' by P. Sainath. It is, undoubtedly, an excellent journalistic work on poverty in India by, what he calls himself, 'A Rural Reporter'. In this book, he brings in stories from some of the poorest districts of India. The book not only takes you to the awful condition of the poor and the tribal India but also goes in its depth and arrives at different issues. To sum it up, he arrives at the doors of land acquisition, rural health, water management, mining et al, of which, almost all are now being termed as a crucial factors to be resolved for an inclusive growth. It also takes a dig at the establishment for acting in haste(after the crisis has occurred) without substance and required knowledge thereby helping the vested interests. Overall it presents the poor, their problems, state's action( if any), curbing of their basic rights and livelihood etc. For those who still wonder what actually happens in rural & tribal India, please go for it!






Wednesday, 12 September 2012

Opportunity Cost, Status Quo & My Time!!

Opportunity Cost(OC) -  It simply means the loss of potential gain from other alternatives when one alternative is chosen. 

Again in simple terms, maintaining the 'Status Quo' is to keep the things the way they presently are. i.e. not trying to add/remove any value to/from the system.


         Here, in this case, I would like to consider the opportunity cost of time spent, not in the context of money. (OC) = 'I could've done so much'-it may even sound less.
                   
         Many of us utilise time for different things which later turn out to be useless, unproductive."I wasted the time, that too badly" the conscience echoes over & over again!"But how did I waste the time? Did I know that I was wasting the time?" The answer is 'No'. Usually no one knowingly wastes the time (except for some fools like me :P ). But there is something very 'habitual', which is deeply rooted, that makes it happen i.e. getting used to Status Quo.

         Each time I relied on status-quo and flowed with the wind silently, I actually lost a great opportunity to make a difference, adding some value to the moment of life. I did waste a lot of extremely precious time. The opportunity cost was also huge. But then I've now realised that status-quo is unsustainable. Trying to maintain the status-quo, that is unsustainable, is the foolish thing that one can do instead of utilising the same time in productive & innovative things. So its time to put my time in some productive purposes :)

         It is then I recalled the remarks of Dr. Jayaprakash Narayan, the founder of LokSatta Party, that he often makes       

                        'Change is inevitable when Status Quo is unsustainable'

        So I've arrived now breaking the walls of procrastination. Yes, Change is inevitable. Be the change. Add some value to the moment of life(system). Celebrate Life.


- - Yours Truly